How Stalkers and Dreamers Can Bridge the Communication Gap

If the two different camps want to communicate they will have to learn each other’s skill sets.

Tools for Dreamers

• Dreamers can be seen as slow since, as previously discussed, their ratio of assimilating new information is twenty-one to thirty-four in respect to Stalkers. It will assist them to cultivate the tool of speed-reading. Colleges offer classes in this.

• Dreamers get overwhelmed when bombarded by information. They either need to take a proper shorthand class or develop their own shorthand system.

• Dreamers hold long term memory patterns well, but not short term memory. They have to cultivate better short term memory by practicing with pieces of information they can afford to fail with. Read a phone number once, dial the whole number; do the same with an address. When typing something on the computer, try to type longer and longer pieces without looking at notes.

• When given complex instructions, use shorthand. Then take time to digest and sort out what has been said. See if there are any gaps in the information and then formulate concise, but comprehensive questions to obtain the missing pieces and do not be afraid to ask.

• Remember always that Stalkers will hold you accountable for every word you say.

Tools for Stalkers

• Stalkers should identify the Dreamers in their environment and slow down the instructions or conversation by using metaphors, examples, stories and humor. When Stalkers are speaking too fast, Dreamers cannot ask questions since they do not even know what to ask.

• Stalkers must remember that Dreamers could be more intelligent than they are perceived to be, but that the system has not allowed them to shine. Remember too, most people are Dreamers.

• Stalkers have often become impatient with Dreamers and by now the Dreamers tend to shut down when Stalkers get confrontational, or blaming or ‘controlling’.

• Stalkers will isolate themselves from others unless they loosen their expectations. By being over-focused on results they can alienate the rest of the team. Remember, Dreamers view time differently. Those speaking vowel-oriented languages (such as aboriginal peoples) have world-views that are even more relaxed about hurrying through life. When I started speaking star language, my concept of time changed instantly.

• Stalkers need to have what to them seems like ‘meaningless social interaction’ in order to get Dreamers to relax around them so that the Stalkers can be heard. If the Stalker has a Dreamer boss, social co-workers may be promoted over him, because of the value Dreamers place on the quality of the journey.

• Stalkers must remember that most Dreamers say things they don’t mean when emotional. They should at least try and listen behind the words to their intent, using the heart rather than the head. Ask a few questions when the emotions are spent (too many will make Dreamers feel interrogated). Developing listening skills is the number one skill for Stalkers to cultivate in trying to bridge the gap.

Excerpted from Journey to the Heart of God